Depending on the situation we are in or a decision we are discerning, we have taken to asking our oldest, Anne-Marie who is now 5, to pray with us and help us to decide or discern.
Raymond, at three, will also be included in the request to pray and contribute depending on the situation at hand.
The one thing that we have realized as parents is that we need to value whatever contribution Anne-Marie, or Raymond, make to the discernment process.
Even if their contribution seems to be completely out of bounds or even a total tangent to where Lucille and I may be at in the discernment process.
One thing we are discovering in this process is if Anne-Marie responds to our, "Why did you say that" with something like, "Because Jesus told me", we listen attentively to what she has to say.
Ultimately, as parents it is our responsibility to make the decisions.
But, a part of that responsibility is to make an act of humility before our children that recognizes their contribution as being a valuable part of our discernment process for decisions that directly impact our children and the family as a whole.
That value is one of the core foundations of their personhood that they will carry with them their entire lives.
The core foundations are the tools we teach our children to use to always keep their face towards the Cross of our Lord Jesus Christ on Calvary.